4 Steps For Self-Love

Here we are, three months into 2018 and I am noticing big changes in myself. POSITIVE changes! See… at the first of the year I had a “real” ahaaa moment… I realized I was indeed a people-pleaser. I found true happiness in putting my ALL into everyone around me. Or so I thought…

It was then that I realized it was not healthy for me and I had to overcome this delusion. It was time to start doing things for ME and find ways to please myself. I began to focus on 4 main things:

  1. Search to find myself and purpose
  2. Learn to love myself more freely
  3. Be more accepting of myself
  4. Being myself and staying true

Searching to find yourself on your own matters A LOT! If you believe you will find yourself through others, you are relying on them for your happiness. Then what are you left to do if they leave? You feel lost and empty.


While learning to love myself, I listened to my body. I took off a week here and there from working out. I stayed in on a Saturday night and spent time alone. I took a nap instead of working on homework. I learned to love my body, mind, heart, and soul by thinking of the positives. I like the way I am so scatter brained, I like that I can be happy alone, I like that I have a big heart and love too much. I quit correcting myself and being so strict. I have chosen to LIVE and LOVE every aspect of myself. When are you going to stop being your worst critic? Do yourself a favor and do it now!

I accepted that I am not perfect. When I looked at pictures of myself I could see every flaw. I took forever to choose a picture to post and I felt every aspect had to be perfect to put up. Then I realized, that was not me. I accepted that I am human and make mistakes. I accepted that I still love people that probably don’t deserve those feelings, and that I still have a hard time saying no. This is OKAY.


By being myself, I realized that I stopped acting like who I was around at the moment. Around certain people, I would have a filter about my opinions, I would not laugh as much, I held back on my random thoughts. Why?! Fear of judgement? Maybe.. But life is too short to not be completely true to yourself. Once I let go of this fear, and I was my absolute most self. Around friends, which self are you? Your most true self, or a version of you?

We are always a “work in progress,” but these four main things have made a difference in my personal happiness. I am constantly finding more self-confidence and self-love through understanding who I am. I hope you can take the time to do these things for yourself. Listen to yourself, you will be surprised at how much you already know.


ˈˌself ˈləv/
noun: self-love
  1. 1. regard for one’s own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic).

    Shelby Lynn




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